Author: Umm Muhammad and Mumtaz Raffi
Publisher: Learn & Grow
About the Book:
Being a good mother-in-law is challenging. Especially since this role is pivotal in maintaining healthy family dynamics. In order to be a good mother-in-law, you need to deeply introspect and look within-to create a legacy of goodness and to lead a life of sincerity, abundance and happiness.
When The two Seas Meet’… An explicit book primarily for the benefit of a Mother-in-law in helping her excel in this challenging role with particular emphasis on building healthy family dynamics. From the feedback from our Initial launch, Guess what? Who else found this book beneficial…
🔹A Son- This book not only made him realise the sacrifices his mother went through in his nurturing, but it also helped him understand her transition from being a ‘Mother’ to a ‘Mother-in-law’, encouraging him to fulfil the vital role in a family unit, by bonding the relationship between his mother and his wife, thus creating harmony, mutual love and care amongst them.
🔹A Daughter- This book is the perfect gift to her mother, in order to enlighten her mom’s heart and to free her mom from the shackles of unnecessary emotions that comes from the urge to control the life of one’s daughter-in-law and harbouring unrealistic expectations from her.
🔹A Sister-in-law- It helped her grasp the essence of meaningful relationships and inspired her to strengthen her bond with her brother’s wife.Alhamdulillah…The beauty, versatility and vastness of the principles and teachings of Islam benefit all.
‘When The Two Seas Meet’ is the debut book of Umm Muhammad & Mumtaz Raffi. The book mentions challenges faced by a mother-in-law, and how to overcome them with wisdom, dignity and grace. It enumerates different strategies on building a successful, healthy, and positive relationship with a Daughter-in-law.
The book very beautifully portrays the journey of a mother to a mother-in-law. Being a MIL herself, the author Umm Muhammad very courageously points out the common but very important reasons why a MIL has a change of heart, which affects the whole dynamics of a family.
She emphasizes to set right one’s priorities before starting this relationship. She points out different vices that are responsible for creating cracks in an otherwise beautiful bond.
The book is divided into the following Chapters:
- Bonding of Relationships
- Mother-in-law’s Perspective
- Embracing the Daughter-in-law
- Internal Struggles – Battling with Nafs
- Crossing Borders
- Finding Peace
- Race Towards Goodness
- Turning of a New Leaf
- When the Two Seas Meet
Each chapter begins with a Quranic verse relevant to its title and content.
The book consists of practical, action-based steps, and elaborates on how to:
- Beware of shaytan
- Have a good opinion of others
- Be Tolerant & kind
- Excel in Goodness
- Build healthy boundaries
- Manage conflict
- Rectify a situation when things go wrong
The importance of patience, gratitude, istighfar, dua and adhkar are also emphasized. The book explains in detail how to strengthen ourselves physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Although the book is written for a mother-in-law, it is equally beneficial for a daughter-in-law, as well as every member of a household, be it a father, son, daughter, etc.
What’s even more interesting is that the tips and techniques shared in this book are applicable for anyone going through issues in relationships or trials in life, teaching how to deal with them, and develop into a well balanced human being.
Chapter 9 of the book talks of a very important phase of a woman’s life which is overlooked almost always when considering her behavior, emotions and struggles. I was glad to see it addressed.
The book is written very beautifully – full of positive vibes without any bitterness or blame-game. It is packed full of beneficial knowledge supported by references from the Quran and Hadith.
I love everything about the book: its cover design (in my favorite color), the binding, paper color and quality of the book.
It would be nice if the very minor typo glitches in the book could be avoided.
This book is a must-read and I highly recommend it for everyone.
I think this is the only book that addresses this topic in such a positive manner. Do let me know if there exists similar literature.
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